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Guest Blog: Kimberlee Sweeney – CDC Certified Divorce Coach

January 23, 2018

I first heard about Divorce Coaches while in the US several years ago but it wasn’t until 18 months ago that I met a NZ based divorce coach, Kimberlee Sweeney.  Kimberlee is a pocket rocket full of great ideas, knowledge and tools to help clients navigate the separation path. Kimberlee is the person to see if you

  • are contemplating separation but need support and clarity as you work through your decision;
  • want assistance to communicate with your ex in a calm and open way;
  • feel the need to put in place and implement a practical, step by step plan;
  • want your legal fees to go further and to work optimally with your lawyer or mediator; 
  • want to work through the cloud of emotion you’re experiencing in order to make supported, focused and practical decisions

I love working with like minded professionals who aim to empower their clients to make child focused and life enhancing decisions for themselves and their families. Therefore, it is a huge pleasure to introduce you to Kimberlee Sweeney and have her as my guest blogger. Take it away Kimberlee… 

Lawyers and Divorce Coaches: A mutually satisfying partnership (Kimberlee Sweeney, CDC Divorce Coach)

In my profession as a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, I have built a portfolio of experts to refer clients going through separation or divorce.  I have spent a substantial amount of time meeting with Barristers, family lawyers, mediators, financial experts, mortgage brokers, real estate agents, counsellors and psychologists, and the like.  I prefer to refer my clients to experts I have personally met and try and match my clients to those experts whom I think they will relate well to.

Working in partnership with a team of legal experts has ultimately prepared my clients for the process of the legalities of separation and divorce.  In turn, my stable of legal experts also refer  their clients to me, when there has been a need for additional support outside of their law office.

Divorce coaching is expanding worldwide but is a relatively new type of coaching here in New Zealand. There is a growing need for more support in this speciality area, especially with all the changes going on within our, “bursting at the seams”, courts system.

Lawyers need credible Divorce Coaches who can broker a clear pathway for them, with clients going through the crisis of a separation or divorce.  A Divorce Coach can facilitate constructive communication and assist clients to settle their disputes out of court in a more collaborative fashion via their lawyers. A coach supports them in and out of meetings and mediations and prepares them both emotionally and organisationally for such meetings.

A divorce coach can assist clients to work through the emotional effects of dealing with separation and divorce, help them to think more clearly about how to move forward in the process, and focus less on reliving the past.  Ultimately getting them organised and putting plans in place, systematically during each phase of separation and divorce. This is beneficial to a family lawyer, who can then work out the practical and legal aspects of separation and divorce, and allow the Divorce Coach to handle the background preparation and emotional toll of divorce.

When children are involved a Divorce Coach can assist parents with developing a ‘Parenting Plan’ that opens up the potential to, co-parent their children amicably and co-operatively, providing the children with structure and security so they can transition into a new way of living between two homes feeling supported.

Some signs that a client could be well served by a Divorce Coach include:

  1. They are locked into one option and refuse to consider other possible solutions
  2. They refuse to examine any other perspective but their own.
  3. They are either overly optimistic or overly pessimistic about how things will turn out for them after the settlement
  4. They lose sight of what is best for the children
  5.  They are so overwhelmed they are stuck in indecision
  6. They have no idea how to rebuild a life on their own.
  7. They simply don’t know where to start and need guidance on how to make wise decisions for their future.

Coaching helps the client explore other options or shift their perspective to consider other possible solutions. It’s a flexible, goal oriented process designed to support, motivate and guide people and to help them make the best possible decisions for their future.

If you would like to learn more about me and the services I offer as a Divorce Coach feel free to scroll through my website or contact me to set up a time for a meeting.

I look after clients all over New Zealand and even have had some clients in Australia. Coaching sessions can be via skype or telephone or in my offices in St Johns, Auckland.

Kimberlee’s coaching practice, Degrees of Separation, operates out of Auckland, New Zealand but she consults via Skype and phone also. You can learn more about Kimberlee and the different services she offers, including her introductory free Discovery session, by calling her on 021 279 9407 or head over to her website www.degreesofseparation.co.nz.

Thanks Kimberlee!

 

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